My Antologies...my world..my reality

Anthony: Pilipino American| Activist| SoCal Boi|UC Irvine Alumnus
antology: I know alot of people are gonna say I’m too serious about this and I need to CTFD.  But this meme, I find offensive. It is a form of microaggression towards Filipinos. The simplest explanation of microagression I can find is, Sue et al. (2007) describe microaggressions as, “brief and commonplace daily verbal, behavioral, or environmental indignities, whether intentional or unintentional, that communicate hostile, derogatory, or negative racial slights and insults toward people of other races.”  I know people mean well and it’s all fun and joke but we have to be conscious of things we say and do. Racism is instituionalized in different systems and we don’t want it to be institutionalized with in social media. 

antology:

I know alot of people are gonna say I’m too serious about this and I need to CTFD. 

But this meme, I find offensive. It is a form of microaggression towards Filipinos. The simplest explanation of microagression I can find is, Sue et al. (2007) describe microaggressions as, “brief and commonplace daily verbal, behavioral, or environmental indignities, whether intentional or unintentional, that communicate hostile, derogatory, or negative racial slights and insults toward people of other races.” 

I know people mean well and it’s all fun and joke but we have to be conscious of things we say and do. Racism is instituionalized in different systems and we don’t want it to be institutionalized with in social media. 

DEAR UNETHICAL, MISLEADING LAW FIRMS

FUCK YOU!! GO DIE. HOW DARE YOU MISLEAD THE COMMUNITY. YOU DON’T DESERVE TO HAVE THE RIGHT TO PROVIDE LEGAL SERVICES IF YOU CAN’T EVEN GET FACT STRAIGHT. DACA ISN’T THE DREAM ACT. STOP MOTHER FUCKING SCAMMING THE COMMUNITY…UGHH!! It’s more frustrating when ethnic media allow it to air on their network -___-

Mixer and Affirmative Action

So today, I went to a mixer with other interns in different organizations in LA. I was partnered with 2 college folks, one from UCLA and one from USC. The student from UCLA asks me if I was for affirmative action. Ofcourse, my answer was a firm, YEAH! Then she replies back, “We’ll I think, it’s bad for us.”  The USC student nodded in agreement. This definitely shocked me because I thought they would be progressive and alot more knowledgeable of different issues in the API community given that they work in a non-profit. Of course I had to educate her about educational disparities in certain API communities. I know she just said, “I understand what you mean” just to stop the conversation and of course I tried to be nice and deviate from that topic. Atelast I was able to provide an insight, hopefully they both reconsider their stance on it. 

On a personal note. The fact that you are able to access higher education and see that  API’s in higher institutions of learning doesn’t mean that affirmative action is no longer valid and that only Latino, Blacks, Native Americans, and other communities are the only ones to reap benefit from it. You should realize that your being here has roots in the implementation of affirmative action. You need to realize that the model minority myth has been institutionalized in society and institutions like higher education. It is our job to look at these institutions in a critical way and intervene in ways we can. We do this for ourselves, our communities,and our family members who wish to pursue higher education. 

I know alot of people are gonna say I’m too serious about this and I need to CTFD.  But this meme, I find offensive. It is a form of microaggression towards Filipinos. The simplest explanation of microagression I can find is, Sue et al. (2007) describe microaggressions as, “brief and commonplace daily verbal, behavioral, or environmental indignities, whether intentional or unintentional, that communicate hostile, derogatory, or negative racial slights and insults toward people of other races.”  I know people mean well and it’s all fun and joke but we have to be conscious of things we say and do. Racism is instituionalized in different systems and we don’t want it to be institutionalized with in social media. 

I know alot of people are gonna say I’m too serious about this and I need to CTFD. 

But this meme, I find offensive. It is a form of microaggression towards Filipinos. The simplest explanation of microagression I can find is, Sue et al. (2007) describe microaggressions as, “brief and commonplace daily verbal, behavioral, or environmental indignities, whether intentional or unintentional, that communicate hostile, derogatory, or negative racial slights and insults toward people of other races.” 

I know people mean well and it’s all fun and joke but we have to be conscious of things we say and do. Racism is instituionalized in different systems and we don’t want it to be institutionalized with in social media. 

So this old handy man is at our place trying to fix things. I told him that the outlet he fixed last time wasn’t working. I obviously know that if the LED[on the outlet] light is on, it’s suppose to work. But when I plug in our appliance it doesn’t work. He keeps insisting that it works and I kept telling him none of the appliances I plugged in work.  The way he said it really ticked me off. He said, I don’t care about that[your] appliances, it[the outlet] works. Duh dude, I wouldn’t tell you it’s not working if it works, but it’s not. Do you fucking believe that just because the led is lit it’s fixed. It has to work when I plug our appliance in. Yea, I might have kinda got ticked off and I was aggressive when I said, Well the appliance is not working when it’s plugged in, that means you didn’t fix it. What ticks me the most is when I’m trying to tell you something and you’re all sarcastic with your answer when I’m trying to be all serious. In addition to this, he was hella homophobic about the previous tenant of our townhouse. I let it slide the other time just because he’s older and I’m assuming he’s more conservative and I really didn’t want to get it with him since if I do, I’m pretty sure he won’t fix shit in our place. 

I’m definitely back in the Valley….

So today on my way to the supermarket, I over heard a group of friends talking about their experience at school today. They were ranting about a classmate beating another person and how the staff didn’t really do anything about it till it was over. Then this girl turned the topic around. She utters, “You know [insert name which I forgot], the guy that looks gay but isn’t.” I was shocked maybe perhaps I was accustomed to a safe space where judgments were minimal.  This Latina utters such judgmental words and others things that I choose to not even talk about. I think I got used to the idea of people being in solidarity with each other that I forgot outside the bubble that  I’ve known, the real world is different. It is cruel, judgmental, and most of all patriarchal and heteronormative. It’s interesting yet disappointing to see how theories I learned are applicable to everyday life..you just have to look at things closely. 

Feeling like a stranger, people not realizing I am not the same person they once knew. I GREW UP. I CHANGED. I’m still me but the person you once knew. 

“We want answers when gay kids die.”

-Chris Cuomo, 20/20 Anchor 

Given that people who do not fit societal norms tend to be bullied, for others see them as different, popular media likes to shine a light on these cases of what I call, “hate bullying.” To elaborate hate bullying is the act of bullying due to an individuals discomfort about a person’s identity or appearance.  Bullying is bullying period, I don’t like how the media likes to place a special kind of label to historically oppressed communities i.e. people of color, LGBTQ, etc. The phrase uttered by Chirs Cuomo[posted above] was something I find to be some what problematic. I know he was trying to shed light in the severity of the situation but it makes it seem that we only care about the deaths of certain people. Shouldn’t it be more like, when anyone dies due to bullying or other acts similar like it, we want answer. I do appreciate how popular media is trying to be more sensitive to these communities but I guess this rhetoric used by the media is a way to comment on our societies non-color blind “system of justice”. Belonging to certain communities can still inhibit an individual from obtaining sufficient justice, people still prefer to perpetuate stereotypes. 

Pain, happiness, experience. These are the things that make us stronger, wiser, better. Sometimes we feel like nothing in our life is going right, but when we look back at it, we know all the suffering was worth while because we come out of the situation stronger. 

So I went to the bathroom and decided to comb my hair, and to my surprise I see a shiny piece of hair. I decided to comb till it was on top and attempted to see what was this shiny piece of hair.Then, there it was, a long strand of white hair—it kinda caught me off guard. I was WTF, I’m too young to be getting white hair. -___- I know it’s kinda petty but I think I had a valid reason to react the way that I did.

riddle me this..: "I'm going to be raped by this final."

“I’m going to be raped by this final.”

Are you really? Are you really about to be raped? I’ve ranted about this before but I honestly HATE it when people use the word ‘rape’ so casually.

Seeing as I keep seeing this statement all over facebook, tumblr, twittter, etc., I felt a need to say it again. I’m sure most of my friends (or at least I’m hoping all of them) who say it don’t honestly believe rape is a good thing. So how can people say it like it’s not a big deal?

Facts:

In the United States…

  • 1 in 3 women will be a victim of rape in their lifetime: 44% of which will happen before the age of 18, 80% will happen before the age of 30.
  • 200,000+ women & 93,000+ men are raped every year.
  • 60% of all rapes will never be reported.
  • 15 out of 16 rapists walk free.
  • 20% of college students will be raped before graduation - 90% of them will be female.
  • 89% of all sexual crimes are committed by an acquaintance of the victim.
Globally…
  • South Africa has some of the highest incidences of child and baby rape in the world.
  • In South Africa, 1,500 school children were surveyed and a quarter of all the boys interviewed said that ‘jackrolling’, a term for gang rape, was fun. More than half the interviewees insisted that when a girl says no to sex she really means yes.
  • In South East Asia, 40% of girls will be sold into prostitution.
  • 2 million children will be forced into sex trafficking every year. 1 million of them will be from Asia.
  • Some Islamic countries require rape victims to provide a male witness to the crime. If married, the victim will be charged of adultery if a witness cannot be provided.
  • The Philippines is the fourth country with the most number of prostituted children, and authorities have identified an increase in pedophiles travelling to the Philippines.

Whether you would like to admit it or not, there is a very high probability you personally know someone who has been or will be a victim of rape or some sexual crime at at least one point in their life.

So how do you think they they would feel if they had to listen to someone they know throw the word around so casually?

But does it really have to get to that point before you take it seriously? Do you really need to have a family member, friend, or acquaintance be a victim of rape before you start watching what you say? Chances are you probably won’t even know though. Because 66% of all rape victims don’t want to admit they have been raped because they think they’ll be blamed for it.

I could throw facts act you all night because I had to study this all in my abnormal psychology class, but I doubt it would stop anyone from using it so casually. But, I hope to God that it will at least make someone think. 

Some people may think I’m just being sensitive. But I think I have a right to be. I may not have ever been direct victim of a sexual crime, but I have gone through things I hope I’ll forget one day, things I hope my family will also forget one day. But honestly I don’t think I need to be an actual victim to care this much. Because to be honest, I don’t think very many people can even fathom how much things like this can really break a person. 

I’m super happy to hear that a friend sees the usage of  ”raping my exam” as problematic. We as young adults tend to forget the hystory and violence associated with certain words. Props to my girl Joanna for droppin some knowledge. 

(via msjoannuh-deactivated20111222)

I can’t wait till I get my own place and when I’m economically independent. I just can’t live with my family anymore. I love them and all but I just need my own space. Maybe that’s why I look forward to getting into grad school so much lol 

Post Grad Rant

As an undergrad at UCI different doors opened to me. My prior role as a student leader has opened so may opportunities for me that I would have never had access to unless I was involve. Post-grad, all those doors are no longer as accessible,opportunities aren’t as abundant. But when that one destined door is given to me, I will open it like no other. It will be the best damn opened door you have seen. Just because things aren’t going as expected or as planned, it doesn’t mean I’m going to giving up. I know what I am capable and I know how valuable my skill sets are. I know one day when that opportunity opens for me, I will know what to do and I will succeed. I’ve always believed that the world has molded me to be a fighter. AND I STILL DO. The world may knock me down but I’ll just stand up stronger and better. 

eerr..so I thought an education institution is suppose to be a place of learning and not a place of exploitation. Today on the way to class at a CC, I saw those card advertisement for a strip club. A) This is a place of learning so NOT THE PLACE OR TIME B) Why the hell are you advertising that shit on a place of intellectual stimulation. It’s freaking demeaning to womyn especially to those who are knowledgeable and resist the practices of this heteronormative  patriarchal  society. This is not Vegas so keep your business and advertisement else where.